Breaking Bad Habits
Olga: Well, actually, I am not suggesting that people fight with themselves, and they avoid or break anything, because that would constitute violence against yourself. I am a student of Marshall Rosenberg, who developed a nonviolent communication system. Instead of taking away the bad, you add something good. You find exciting, fun, new habits that will naturally substitute.
Todd: Okay, so for example, let's say you watch too much TV, or you're addicted to your smartphone. You would try to maybe play outside or do something like that.
Olga: Well, you can develop a lot of new habits and see what works for you. One of the things that I discovered for myself is that willpower is a very finite resource. We don't have infinite amounts of willpower, so we need to use it very sparingly on short distances. It's not for marathons. What I suggest, when you're establishing a new habit that you feel that is the right habit for you, you need to use a little bit of willpower to repeat it enough times. Usually magic number is 21 days.
Todd: Really? 21 days, why 21?
Olga: I have no idea, but this number keeps popping up from different traditions in East and West and also psychology. I saw it in my own practice that it works.
Todd: Fascinating. Let's say you want to give up sugar, or you want to give up smoking or something like that, a physical substance. Do you have any tips for that?
Olga: Yes. One of their easiest things to do is incorporate fermented foods that break up chemical dependency on sugars, alcohol, and some other addictive substances. When I work with people who are recovering from any kind of addictions, they don't have to be substance addictions, fermented foods help a lot.
Todd: Okay. Can you give some examples of fermented foods?
Olga: Absolutely. If you just chop up any kind of vegetable, let's say it's cabbage and carrot, so you cut it up. You massage it with salt and some spices until their juice comes out. You press it down so all the vegetables are covered with its own juice. Three days later, you have perfect fermented sauerkraut.
Todd: Wow, that's great. Could you just buy sauerkraut or vinegar or something like that? Would that work?
Olga: Well, unfortunately, it wouldn't, because most of their krauts that you buy is pasteurized, which does not give you their probiotic activity. A lot of it is fake sauerkraut. What I mean by that, if there was no bacterial activity and their taste comes from vinegar, you do not get this benefit.
Todd: Wow, that's good to know. I think though part of the problem though is even myself thinking like, "Oh, I'm not going to cut up a bunch of cabbage and carrots, and wait three days." It seems like it's too much work.
Olga: Well, it might be. Maybe you can visit a friend who is doing that, or if you have access to farmer's market or some natural organic stores, they may provide something that is not pasteurized and prepared the right way.
Todd: Oh, that's a good idea. Okay, well, thanks a lot. That was some really good advice.
Olga: Very welcome.
break a habit
What about breaking bad habits?
When you break a bad habit, you stop doing it on a regular basis. A bad habit is something you do often that is not healthy or productive. Notice the following:
- I'm trying to break my bad habit of
drinking sweet beverages.
What's your advice for obsessive behavior?
Obessive behavior is something people do all the time, and as a result suffer from a negative outcome because of it. Notice the following:
- His need to check his Facebook posts for
likes has become an obsessive behavior.
This number keeps popping up.
When something keeps popping up, it keeps appearing somewhere. Notice the following:
- New convenience stores keep popping up
You want to give up sugar.
When you give something up, you quit doing it. We often give things up because they have a bad influence in our lives. Notice the following:
- I gave up golf because it took up too much
of my time.
Incorporate fermented foods.
Fermented foods are foods that have changed chemically, often by changing the acid or sugar content. Notice the following:
- Wine is fermented grape juice.
Most of the krauts that you buy are pasteurized.
Pasteurized food is food that has been sterilized and made safe for consumption by removing potentially harmful elements. Notice the following:
- The milk we buy in stores is pasteurized.