1031 Make the First Move
Nick asks Cheryl about making the first move with someone you like.
Cheryl: Make the first move?
Nick: Yeah, when you're interested in somebody and you want to take it further: to become boyfriend and girlfriend.
Cheryl: I see. Make the first move! Well, first I think I would try to talk to the guy.Try to approach him and maybe ask him some questions about himself. Questions such as, "Where are you from? What do you like to do? Why are you here? " Questions like that. And then I would see how he would respond.
Nick: So would you be physical? Would you maybe be huggy or ... I don't know ..
Nick: Flirtatious. Yes.
Cheryl: Flirtatious. Well, I think that would depend on whether I have the courage to be flirtatious or actively flirtatious. Maybe, I would use my body language to show him that I'm interested. Usually, when somebody likes a guy, they would probably lean in towards the guy, blink their eyes more than usual. Smile a lot. But I think if you have an interest in that person, your body should show it naturally and automatically.
Nick: Is place important?
Cheryl: Place? That is a very, very, very good question. If we are alone, then I think I would be more brave and courageous in making the first move. But if we're a room full of people, I might not be as forward as I would be alone with the person.
Nick: So maybe would you make the first move and ask for a date or?
Cheryl: Ask for a date? I don't think I have the guts. I don't have the courage to ask for a date the very first time I meet someone. I would probably have to meet them more than once, and get to know them and see if like that person more.
Nick: OK, I see.
Are you huggy with him?
If someone is huggy, that means they like to give hugs or hug people often. Similarly, to kiss a lot, especially in public, means to be kissy. Notice the following:
- He is really huggy with his friends.
- I don't like it when people are all huggy in public.
I am sometimes flirtatious with people I like.
When someone flirts with another person, they use touch, body language or facial expressions to show they are interested in the person. A flirtatious gesture could be as simple as touching someone on the arm or listening very attentively. Here are some examples:
- I tend to be flirtatious at parties.
- She wishes her boyfriend was more flirtatious.
I use my body language to flirt with people.
Body language is communication using one's body without words. For example, crossing one's arms can show that a person is upset or bored. Rolling the eyes can show disbelief, etc. Notice the following:
- Body language is very important in an interview.
- I could tell he was upset by his body language alone.
I don't have the guts to make the first move.
To have guts means to have courage to do something. If you do not have the guts for something, that means you are afraid of failure or the outcome. Notice the following:
- I didn't have the guts to watch that movie. It looked to scary.
- She didn't have the guts to try out for the school play.
I would have to get to know them first.
When you get to know someone, you learn what they like and how they act on a daily basis. You often know what makes them happy or angry and how they like to spend their time. Below are a few examples:
- It takes awhile to get to know someone.
- I didn't really get to know your mother until after our marriage.
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have the guts • get to know