371 Being a Grandmother


Vivian talks about how she feels to be a grandparent.

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Adrienne: So, Vivian, you have grandchildren!

Vivian: I have two lovely granddaughters.

Adrienne: Granddaughters! What's it like being a grandma?

Vivian: It is a second chance on life because of when you are raising children as a young person you get caught up in the daily world, but with grandchildren it's all fun. I don't have to do this, or I don't have to do that, and when I get tired I can send them home to their parents.

Adrienne: Right, that's the best part, right? So what else is different about being a mother versus being a grandmother?

Vivian: Being a mother you are totally responsible for your child. You are trying to raise them the best you know how to raise them and you're young and everything that you do you know that will be picked up by your child but when you have grandchildren that duty is up to their parents so I don't feel that I have to really teach them anything. I have to continue the teaching of their parents.

Adrienne: So you get to do all the fun stuff now that you're a grandma?

Vivian: Yes, it really is fun. They take you by the hand, and take you to the store and point out everything in the world that mom and dad will not give them and it really costs you a lot of money sometimes, unless, you do put your foot down and say, ”NO!”

Adrienne: So being a grandma is more expensive that being a parent?

Vivian: Absolutely, but it's a lot more fun because at this stage of life you have a little bit more money than you had when you were raising your child.

Adrienne: I see. That's great.

Learn Vocabulary from the lesson

second chance on life

It is a second chance on life because when you are raising children as a young person you get caught up in the daily world, but with grandchildren it's all fun.

When you get a 'second chance on life' it means that you have the chance to start things a fresh and another chance to do the things you didn't do earlier in life.

Notice the following:

  1. When you move to a new area you get a second chance on life because nobody knows you.
  2. I would love to get a second chance on life and get remarried.

duty

When you have grandchildren that duty is up to their parents.

Something that is a 'duty' is an obligation or responsibility. 

Notice the following:

  1. It is your duty to pay your taxes.
  2. I went to the meeting out of duty, but I really did not want to go.

take you by the hand

They take you by the hand, and take you to the store and point out everything in the world that mom and dad will not give them.

When you 'take someone by the hand' you hold their hand and lead them somewhere. This can mean to literally take someone's hand or to just give him assistance.

Notice the following:

  1. I will take you by the hand and show you.
  2. He said he loves to take me by the hand and walk down by the lake.

put your foot down

Unless, you do put your foot down and say, ”NO!”.

When you 'put your foot down' make a decision and do not consider changing your mind. It is your final decision and you are forceful about it.

Notice the following:

  1. I think I need to put my foot down and tell him that I will not be going.
  2. You need to show them who is boss and put your foot down.

this stage of life

It's a lot more fun because at this stage of life you have a little bit more money than you had when you were raising your child.

This 'stage of life' means at the particular point of life that somebody is at that time.

Notice the following:

  1. You need to look after old people as this stage of life can be quite lonely for them.
  2. This stage of life is considered to be the best.

 

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Vocabulary Challenge

Complete the sentences with the words below.
second chance • duty • hand
foot down • stage
  1. Nobody in this office will take you by the and show you how to do things. You have to find out for yourself.
  2. At this of life you have to be selfish and do what it best for you.
  3. I have been very flexible about the situation, but now it is time to put my .
  4. After his accident, he thought of everything as his on life.
  5. It is my to teach my little sister about life.